Welcome back to the Prepping for Success in 2018 blog series and Part 5 where I share with you some final thoughts and resources I used to get my writing career plan laid out the way I need it to achieve my idea of success.
Every year, the modern world asks us what our New Year’s Resolutions or Goals are. Every year we make them, then try to stick to them. Sometimes we succeed, sometimes we fail.
The reason we fail isn’t because we didn’t set great goals. It’s because we didn’t se the right goals. The goals we already know we need in order to achieve the specific outcome we crave,
That specific outcome is buried in our ancient mind—the instinctually carter and more driven part of ourselves that will do whatever it takes to survive.
To live and and be happy.
The need to survive is hardwired into our brains. Its the why that pushes us forward.
A few examples…
You need more money. Why?
- To survive and take care of your family.
- To pay bills.
- To care for a child or loved one.
You need to have friends? You need to go onto Facebook and Twitter instead of doing your work? Why?
- To not feel alone.
- To know and feel you belong.
Looking at why you failed to meet a specific goal is a great method to uncover your motivating factor.
- Why didn’t you write that book in 2017?
- Why did you go onto Facebook when you should have been writing?
- Why did you eat that chocolate bar when you should have bene eating a salad?
- What did those things give you that pursing your goal did not?
Be honest with yourself. Really look at who you are, what you want, and why.
Because once you do that, then you’ll have what you need to come up with your very own…
How to be Successful in 2018 Master Action Plan (and To-Do List)
To help you on your journey, I’ve included a few videos that helped me walk through this process.
Up first, Dr Steve Robbins.
This video is long (about an hour), but a fascinating look in Diversity & Inclusion and how human beings interact to build tribes. Key points I took away from this video—
- Physical pain & social pain light up the same parts in the brain. So me punching you can hurt just as much as me calling you a name or criticizing you (or your book).
- Ancient brain likes patterns or models. Also believes there is safety in numbers and acceptance into a tribe equals value to the tribe which equals safety and survival.
- Multi tasking is a myth.
- And my favorite—the ancient brain will overrule the modern (thinking) brain to conserve energy (because the modern brain requires more energy (sugar) and time to think through new situations).
Can’t say enough good things about the information he regularly shares in his books, events, or online. And yes, I could spend days watching all the videos he has out. But for this blog series I focused on the life blue print video I found most valuable for unlocking my potential.
Key takeaway points:
- When your life condition does not equal your life blueprint, then unhappiness and depression occur.
- When you say “I should” it’s a statement of your expectation.
- When what you “should have done” doesn’t match what you ”did” or are ”about to do” or being “asked or told to do”, then unhappiness and depression occur.
- There’s ton more, but that’s the biggest and goes in line with what my gut says I need to share with you right now.
I added the next two videos to the list that you might find useful and helpful.
- Setting New Year Goals:
- How to Deal with Depression:
Ah yes, Simon Sinek, the brains behind The Golden Circle.
Haven’t heard of it before? Then check out his TEDTalk and get enlightened. It has the basics you need to understand the WHAT, HOW, and WHY model.
His background is in marketing, but after 9-11 he switched gears to become an optimist and motivation speaker focusing on leadership development. I highly recommend surfing YouTube to check out some other discussions with him after this TedTalk, because his perspective on how leaders lead is fascinating.
My favorite was the time he mentioned the infinite and finite game models then explained who’d win when a finite game player entered an infinite game player’s world. Super interesting.
Need a cheat sheet to remind you of what was said in the TedTalk, then check out this link that has a nice graphic and discussion about the Golden Circle:
And that’s it.
I hope this blog series has helped yourself better aligned and prepped for success in 2018!
And now I’m off to get back to work on my 2018 Master Action Plan and knocking out the next items on my list that’ll get me to where I want to be by the middle of January… writing more stories while my blog automatically publishes new content already loaded for fabulous readers just like you .
Until next time…